The Four Agreements

This little book by Miguel Ruiz is a must-read and re-read for anyone looking to improve how they feel about themselves and others, cope with difficult situations, and be happy and not suffer in the here and now.

This is a particularly good text for business and organizational leaders at a levels. It provides a powerful and effective code of conduct – rooted in moral, ethical and spiritual practices — to interact with people in the most constructive and positive manner, and limit suffering.

The Four Agreements are:

  1. Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
  2. Do not take things personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is projection of their own reality . . . . When you are immune to the opinions of others and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
  3. Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
  4. Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

The book is available at most any bookstore. If you like to support independent stores, Mager’s and Quinn Booksellers is a great one.